A Lot of My Primary School Friends already Married

These few days I've added and been added by my old friends in facebook. I mean friends from primary school.

I was familiar with some names but I didn't remember the face anymore. There are some others I've totally forgotten.

After I do some stalking (for good) for get-to-know-my friends-better mission, I got a social tendency of living which I furthermore enhanced myself with current social lives I'm living :

1. A lot of my friends that live in my hometown, as in not study outside the town, have got married. I was quite surprised to learn they even have given births to lovely kids. They tend to settle down so early.

2. They, the adventurous, in vice versa, do not tend to settle down. They see the marriage age is still years to come. Number 1's people take it differently and say the suitable age for a woman to get married is under 25. There are of course a lot of factors that make this difference.

3. All parents like their children to get married as soon as possible. It's kind of release to see all of the children have grown up, built up their own families, and lived well. They see it as their milestone and regard is as the completed task as parents.

4. All parents like to have a son-in-law who is a business man - thus working on his own and not on others. Perhaps that's due to the point of view that a business man will be more successful than those who are not, hence can bring their daughters a brighter happier married life.

The factors I can find for the difference in number 2 :

1. Some have the principal they have to see and achieve their dreams and goals that are hard to be fulfilled as a married person. So before they are engaged and devoted to a marriage, they don't mind to spend time for that and delay the marriage.

2. Although it's not completely applied to all people, but admit it, those who have seen more things, experienced varieties of lives tend to see marriage not as the sole characteristic to define a complete woman. Because of that also, they seem to keep looking for what they really want and need before they settle down.

Those who have settled down earlier are not necessarily happier than those who keep searching.Those who still keep searching probably later on going back to the start point where the first type stand on - their mistake is, they do not realize it's already the best thing and instead keep looking around.